Tangled Mess

I'm NOT because I'm KNOT.

-J and J

Synchronized Swimmers

This is one of my favorites! These are some of my friends at a talent show. It cracks me up every time I see it.

Don't Forget...

HOUSE

IT IS TIME

The Past

Overcoming the Odds

RANDOM

Protection

Have it Your Way

Turn Around

Go Away

I Can't Keep Up

Smile

I am Ready

You are Blind

It's Almost Over

Goodbye

-Jackee

The Upside of Being BORDERLINE

A person with BPD always wants to be with the ones they love.
A person with BPD is chameleon-like and adapts easily with different types of people.
A person with BPD is spontaneous.
A person with BPD has a high tolerance for physical pain.
A person with BPD experiences more intense feelings of love, happiness, and joy than a person without.

What is Borderline Personality Disorder?

The one word that best characterizes BPD is "instability." Their emotions are unstable, fluctuating wildly for no discernible reason. Their thinking is unstable - rational and clear at times, quite psychotic at other times. Their behavior is unstable - often with periods of excellent conduct, high efficiency and trustworthiness alternating with outbreaks of babyishness, suddenly quitting a job, withdrawing into isolation, failing.

Their self control is unstable - ranging from the extreme self denial of anorexia to being at the mercy of impulses. And their relationships are unstable. They may sacrifice themselves for others, only to reach their limit suddenly and fly into rageful reproaches, or they may curry favor with obedient submission only to rebel, out of the blue, in a tantrum.

Associated with this instability is terrible anxiety, guilt and self-loathing for which relief is sought at any cost - medicine, drugs, alcohol, overeating, self-injury, suicide. Sadly, oddly, self mutilation is discovered by many individuals with BPD to provide faster relief more than anything else - cutting or burning themselves stops the anxiety temporarily.

In addition, individuals with BPD show great difficulties in controlling ragefulness; they are unusually impulsive, they fall in and out of love suddenly; they tend to idealize other people and then abruptly despise them. A consequence of all this is that they typically look for help from a therapist and then suddenly quit in terrible disappointment and anger.

Underneath all these symptoms, therapists began to see an inability to tolerate the levels of anxiety, frustration, rejection and loss that most people are able to put up with, an inability to soothe and comfort themselves when they become upset, and an inability to control the impulses toward the expression, through action, of love and hate that most people are able to hold in check. And, furthermore, what most defines BPD is great difficulty in holding on to a stable, consistent sense of one's self: "Who am I?" these people ask. "My life is in chaos; sometimes I feel like I can do anything - other times I want to die because I feel so incompetent, helpless and loathsome. I'm a lot of different people instead of being just one person."

*From BDPResourceCenter.org

Mike Huckabee's Action Steps to Higher Ground

These are my favorites:

1. Read the Bible more; blogs less.
2. Listen to more music and less talk radio.
3. Do volunteer work with the impoverished, disabled, or ill.
4. Write letters of praise to total strangers you read about who do wonderful things.
5. Practice "Random Acts of Kindness."
6. Don't use profanity.
7. Attend worship service every week.
8. Always say "Thank you."
9. Never ask for anything without saying "Please."
10. Never miss a musical performance or school play your child is involved in.
11. Volunteer to help out in at least one school activity per year.
12. Don't smoke - PERIOD!
13. Exercise a minimum of three times per week, at least thirty minutes per session.
14. Never litter!
15. Recycle.
16. Take steps to prevent being a victim of crime.
17. Donate a tithe or more to your church.
18. Write a letter to the editor.
19. Visit historical sites or museums.
20. Take the family on an old-fashioned picnic.
21. Don't watch TV during dinner.
22. Take a course at your community college.
23. Pray before meals.
24. Travel abroad.
25. Make a to-do list everyday.

Nine Words That Women Use and Men Should Know

*Men should print this list for future reference.

NINE WORDS WOMEN USE

(1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are
right and you need to shut up.

(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour.
Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more
minutes to do whatever it is that you're doing before helping around the house.

(3) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and
you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end
in fine.

(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

(5) Loud Sigh: This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement
often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot
and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you
about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

(6) That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can
make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before
deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

(7) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question it, or faint. Just
say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless
she says "Thanks a lot" - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you
at all. DO NOT say "you're welcome" ... that will bring on a "whatever").

8) Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning
this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is
now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking "What's
wrong?" For the woman's response refer to # 3.

9) Whatever: You're basically... screwed!